Using social media mindfully is almost impossible — but here’s how to try

There’s some truth to the sense that social media can feel like work. Back in the 1970s, the communication researcher Dallas Smythe said that television doesn’t sell entertainment to the audience — it sells the audience to advertisers. Just by watching television — and posting, liking, tweeting, etc. — we “work.” As in, we do what counts as work in a …

Beating yourself up inside isn’t helping

Bring to mind a habit that you’d like to change. One that you often do unconsciously, without choice. It could be drinking, overeating, checking Facebook, or how you treat someone you love. Really visualize yourself doing it. Imagine the sights, smells, tastes, and sounds. How do you feel, right now, about this image of yourself …

Mindfulness is helping me finally give myself permission to relax

I call it “striving.” I’ve heard others call it hustling, hard work, the grind, “just the way things are.” It’s my mind’s default mode, the part of my personality that almost always jumps in the driver’s seat and takes the wheel. On good days, it shows up as an exact and tidy to-do list, with …