Therapy for men in Maryland

Do any of these sound like you?

• “My partner wants me to open up more, but I don’t know how to understand or talk about my feelings.”
• “I’m trying to be more emotionally available to my partner, but sometimes I like to relax and decompress on my own and that causes issues in our relationship.”
• “A lot of my friendships feel surface-level. I want to feel more connected and less isolated but don’t know how.”
• “I can’t share any of this stuff with my partner or friends because it’s embarrassing.”
• “Sometimes I get angry at my partner (or kids) out of nowhere. I want to learn how to control my anger.”
• “I can’t stop thinking about work when I’m home. I want to be more present in my relationship and everything else outside of my job.”
• “I thought I’d finally be happy once I got to this point in my career, but I still feel like something’s missing.”
• “I don’t even really believe in therapy, but I’m willing to give it a try because something needs to change.”
• “Whatever I thought I knew about masculinity isn’t working for me. I don’t know how to be a man in the modern world.”

As a therapist specializing in therapy for men in Maryland, I can help you overcome these issues, learn how to navigate your emotions, and get the relationship/life you’ve always wanted.

You’ve already taken the first step

First off, I want to tell you that it takes strength and courage to seek help. This is a huge step, and the odds are it will only get easier from here.

It took me years of struggling on my own with stress, anxiety, and relationship issues to finally reach out to a therapist. And even then, I only reached out because an ex-partner all but forced me to.

But after I experienced how therapy helped me feel less burned out and be more present at work and in my relationship, I was hooked. I even eventually became a therapist myself.

Like all people, men suffer from anxiety, depression, and other issues that can get in the way of living the life we want. But there are things particular to the experience of being a man that often need to be addressed in therapy.

Knowing that certain behaviors of mine are a big cause of my anxiety has helped me in relationships, with friends, and at work. It’s helped me become closer with my father. It’s helped me become closer with friends. It’s helped me be more present and get more of my needs met in my relationship. It’s helped me get clearer about what I really want to accomplish with my work.

A judgement-free space for anything you’re ashamed or confused about

We will start by identifying the symptoms you’ve been experiencing, whether it’s anxiety, depression, uncontrollable anger, or something else. We will also identify the situations and circumstances (“triggers”) that cause these symptoms.

I will teach you practices to address your symptoms as they arise in the moment, like mindfulness meditation. We will also discuss potential changes at your workplace, at home, and other areas of your life.

Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, we will identify the “parts” of you that are contributing to your symptoms. For example, you may think you should always be in control, figuring things out yourself and never asking for help. Or you may have a people-pleasing (“nice guy”) part of you that thinks you should stay quiet and keep everyone else happy.

I will help you see that these parts are actually trying to protect you. They don’t want you to feel negative feelings, such as shame, fear, or loneliness. They just have extreme ideas about how to do that.

In IFS, parts are internal subpersonalities (or inner voices) we developed as children. They get “frozen in time … and keep doing whatever extreme things they did to protect [us] when [we] were young,” says Richard Schwartz, the therapist who developed IFS.

For example, that people-pleaser part of you may have learned early in your life that it might be dangerous not to make sure your parents (or other caregivers) were happy. Today, in your adult life, it’s working extra hard doing what it thinks you need to do—be “nice”—to keep you safe.

I will help you get to know your parts and release their childlike, extreme beliefs about how you need to be. With time, this can lead to more choice and freedom in how you show up at work, in relationships, and throughout your life.

FAQ about therapy for men in Maryland

How will I know it’s working?

While you’ll likely feel some relief within a few sessions, long-lasting progress may take weeks, months, or even years. This is because therapy not only treats symptoms, but it also addresses root causes.

I will not only help you learn new ways to cope with your symptoms, but I will also help you explore why it’s happening in the first place, which often takes time. Eventually, addressing the experiences and healing the trauma that laid the foundation for your symptoms will allow you to fully let go of the habits and patterns that are holding you back.  

How often should I do therapy and for how long?

As the client, you always control the frequency and number of sessions. Typically, I recommend that we meet weekly, especially in the beginning. It takes commitment and consistency to build trust and rapport.

But it’s ultimately your call. If you want to move to bi-weekly after a few months, that’s up to you.

How long we work together is up to you as well. I might recommend continuing or ending therapy based on your progress and goals. But you decide when you don’t need more sessions.

Some of my clients work with me for a few months as they navigate a difficult situation, while others have seen me as a helpful guide for years. Together, we will talk about what is most supportive to your ongoing growth and well-being.

How much does it cost?

My fee for a therapy session is $190 and will likely be reimbursed under most insurance plans. I accept credit card/debit card and HSA/FSA payments at the time of service.

I am considered “out-of-network” for all major insurance companies including Aetna, BlueCross, Cigna, Carefirst, and UHC. That means you pay the full fee at the time of service and can then choose to submit to your insurance for reimbursement through your out-of-network benefits.

The majority of clients have some out-of-network benefits, which on average cover 70 percent of a therapist’s fee. You should check with your insurance to confirm.

I provide a Statement for Reimbursement (“superbill”) through a secure online portal to submit to your insurance company if you choose to seek reimbursement.

Your therapist, Jeremy Mohler, LCPC

Scheduling therapy for men in Silver Spring, Bethesda, Chevy Chase, Rockville, Baltimore, or other parts of Maryland

Click on the button below to fill out the form and I’ll email you to set up a free introductory phone call. I’ll answer any questions you have, and if I’m not the right fit, I’ll help you find a therapist who is.